The Soul Mate Search – Are Men Searching For Their Soul Mate As Hard as Women?

Okay, my girlfriends and I got together last night it was ladies night, I had a speaking engagement to prepare for and I needed to unwind.  We got together over some Kombuchas (I guess that is the plural form of this fermented tea), raw nut cheese, and flax seed crackers.  Yes, we raw foodies can do it classy too!

Anyway, two of my girlfriends are married and 3 are not.  We got on the subject of Soul mates and as usually, they bombard Roslyn and I with all these questions.  They usually expect us to have all the answers.  We don’t but we give insight to what we know from a spiritual standpoint. 

The question was:  Are men searching for their soul mate as hard as women?  I had to be honest and say exactly what I am about to share with you all now—most men would agree.  The answer is….

It depends.  It depends on what his focus is.  Most men, and I say most because I can’t speak for all, begin the Soul mate search when they are comfortable with where they are professionally.  If they like where they are professionally and feel comfortable about what they are earning, many men like the idea of having someone who loves them and understands them to come home to. 

However, if they are still climbing the career ladder or attempting to start a business, many men feel like they should get things going in their careers first.

Now are there women who feel the same way?  Absolutely.  On the other hand, women are more pressured by society to get married before a certain age.  As a result, many of us feel as if we should choose, relationship or career, love or profession, motherhood or business owner.  And still, there are many women who want to do all at once, career, marriage, baby…to make sure we don’t regret anything or miss out on anything, “especially before we get too old.” 

The reality is this, when we choose to co-create our life, we can have it all.  We can have all our desires fulfilled.  We just have to focus on our true desires and let life unfold naturally with out fear or regret.  If you make yourself available—truly available for the best relationship—an empowering relationship built on love and spiritual growth, you don’t have to worry if you will ever find your soul mate.  You will.  And it won’t be a struggle. 

Man or woman, your soul mate is someone who is your partner on the path of enlightenment.  Men desire to be with their soul mate just as much as women do.  It is the societal and ageism pressures that women feel when it comes to finding their soul mate. 

And to make things very clear here, we shouldn’t spend day and night searching for our soul mate.  We should simply know the qualities we want in a partner and be available for sharing our lives with someone else. 

So how do you become attractive for your Soul mate? Yes, the Law of Attraction applies here too.  Here are some key points to get you on track: 

1. Truly be available. You are not available if you are cording or stuck on another individual.  When you are stuck on another guy or girl you are chording someone else and it is as if you are not available for another love relationship.  Let go of that guy or girl you have been hung up on for years.  You know the one.  The one that you have tried 7 ways to Sunday to make things workout for you and it is still not working.  Just because you say this person is your soul mate doesn’t make it so.  If it is not working for you…let it go.  Become available again.  As long as you are tied up and corded to a non-productive relationship, you will never be available for your soul mate.
2. Be happiness.  Yes, that’s right, be happiness. Many among us have the “I’ll be happy when…” syndrome.  Be happiness anyway.  You will always draw the best into your life and into your reality when you are flowing with the harmony of well-being and the harmony of well-being is happiness.   Even when you grieve, ultimately you should be happiness.  Even when you don’t feel well physically, ultimately you should be happiness, and even if you want someone to share your life with, be happiness and you will draw the best love partner in your life.  A partner that will grow with you on the path of enlightenment.
3. Love yourself.  I know that sounds like a cliché, but it’s true.  When I say love yourself I mean appreciate who you really are, be grateful for the things in your life and you will elevate your being to a level which will draw the best love partner in your life.  A love partner who will appreciate you as much as you appreciate yourself.
4. Embrace your sexuality in a healthy way.  Sensual people are attractive.  Having a healthy outlook about sex makes you attractive for your soul mate.  If you have sexual hang-ups, rigidity issues, or even a sexual addiction, you will not attract your soul mate.
5. Live like you want someone to share you life with.  The mine, mine, mine mentality has to go.  You cannot truly desire your soul mate if you don’t want anyone sitting on your furniture, driving your car, or taking a shower in your master suite.  Come on!  If you are really ready to attract your soul mate in your life, then live your life in a way that it can be shared with someone else.
6. Stop complaining with your friends about how there aren’t any good men or good women out there.  There are.  The Law of Attraction is real.  If you are concentrating on the lack of good men or good women how in the name of all that is good will you ever attract your Soul mate.  The only thing you could attract is a problem—because you said there are not good men or women available.  Be the voice of reason amongst your friends or get new friends.

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